This Isn’t Control…

We must let go of the things we wish to change and accept the things we cannot control.


I feel like i’ll be spitting cliches out in this blog, but I truly and deeply believe that people would be happier if they learned to let things go. Control seems to stem directly from fear.

It is absolutely true that sometimes life sucks and there are circumstances that we have to remove ourselves from that could be hurting day to day life.

Sometimes people really suck, but instead of getting angry or violent or stressed I think it’s important to accept them for who and what they are. That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to ignore what bothers you about them, but I think it’s better to do what you can, which is remove yourself from the situation, rather than try to get someone else to see your point of view.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. It comes with my anxiousness and my pain. It comes with my frustration with other people. It comes with my curiosities and the constant wonderings of the “what ifs” and “should be’s”.

When did life become such a competitive place where everyone has to have the best and then better than the best. There is a lot of pressure these days to have an idea of what your future will be. It can be scary not knowing if the choices you are making everyday will get you to where you want to go. I guess that’s when faith comes into play.


Another cliche, but the grass may always be greener on the outside, but sometimes what we have can be taken for granted with the fantasy of things being even better.

I think it’s important to have ambition and it’s okay to have dreams, but we cannot allow these fantasies to get in the way of living our lives. If you want to do something and you’re putting it off then do it. You’re bound to make a few hundred mistakes before you finally get it right and that’s not something you should fear.

If what you have is making you unhappy than I suggest looking inwardly and figuring out what you want versus immediately pointing fingers and blaming others for the things that are out of your control. If you do want more than take action and put yourself out there instead of making excuses for why it can never be. Perhaps it will never be, but you don’t know unless you try.

As much as we want it to be we cannot control other people and life cannot truly be lived without experiencing it’s random cruelties. And yet with acceptance, your mind will not weigh you down with the bad and you will find balance for the things that we can be grateful for.

My last blog I wrote was about gratitude and I think it’s important to bring it up again here, but it’s more than that.

I’ve come to realize that stress can be greatly reduced by simply letting go of the expectation of a life you want and be present and enjoy whatever it is that you do have and if you have nothing to be enjoyed, again, evaluate internally first and figure out why you aren’t happy and what is keeping you back.



One thought on “This Isn’t Control…

  1. This is great advice. It’s crazy how often our imagined expectations keep us from enjoying everything we already have. I’m curious, do you find that when you start letting go of things, you actually have more energy to focus on what matters?


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